hi Saratoga, thanks for the words of comfort. I know preemies get good care and lots of babies much smaller, even two pounds make it these days. Mly daughter tries to be brave and didn't get as good care as she could have and I Know she didn';t eat as well, but neither did I when I was pregnant with her. In fact I was in the hospital with pneumonia, in a coma for 3 days, had blood transfusions and spent over a month in the hospital with 3 weeks in Intensive Care. It was not untill after I went home,( still sick and with a fever) went back to the emergency room because of the chest pain, ( Pleurisy) and they do the typical questioning, " is there a chance you may be pregnant?" And I said No, I had JUST got out of the hospital the day before, and because of "spotting" they apparently thought I had a period while in the hospital, ( I was in a coma so do not remember any of this luckily...
) Anyway, You can imagine the shock on my face when they come back and tell me I am pregnant, about 2 1/2 months along,
With all the radiation, ( I mean extensive portable Chest X-rays 2-3 times a day )and all the medications and such they had me on, when I found out I was pregnant and went to the OBGYN for the first time, the first thing I heard m0re than once, referred to " terminating the pregnancy" because of the high possibililty of birth defects. " I was the only one who wanted to continue with the pregnancy. I had lots of problems with this pregnancy starting with the fact I almost died before she was even born, and nobody but nobody, esp her dad and the DR.s thought I would have a "viable or normal baby". So when my daughter was born, her name was appropriate in every way; Valerie, her name means Strength, and she calls herself, Victoria, which is more appropriate, as it means Victorious, I think this little one has some of her mom's natural strength and the other things such as beauty, intelligence, courage and such are only extras.
Saratoga, did it take very long for your son to get strong.. and did the hospital let you come and visit him as much as possisble,? It seems now a days, hospitals treat parents more and more like strangers and with less rights than they did when I was growing up or even when my children were growing up. I like the fact that they are becomming more aware and protecting children more as well they should, but they should make more accomadations for parents. What happened to letting mothers or even dads sleep in the same room or at the hospital when you had a sick child, esp a baby , a newborn? I remember when my son was just 14 months old, he awoke one morning very sick, very strange behaivor, He was limp like a rag doll, could not sit up without his whole body slumping over in the high chair, and he could not hold his head up.( he was not quite walking on his own yet) I rushed him to the emergency room and they examined him knew he was sick, and admitted him quickly thinking he has mengigitis. ( they did a spinal tap but luckily it was negative)
To make the story shorter and to the point, he stayed in the hospital for three or four days and I got to stay in his room that whole time, never leaving except to go home, shower, eat and change clothes and feed my two cats. I slept in a rocking chair in that room, I could not imagine not being there for my son. When a child or baby needs you, it is the mom , dad, or other familiar family member that should be there if at all possible. Anyway, Saratoga, your story of your son did help me some, also thanks to Kat and to Lottibell, I appreciate all of your comments and thoughts or well wishes. It is not mly baby, but my daughter and my grand-baby and she is so small. I wish I could be there, but I am in spirit.
I guess now the cat or "Pleo" is out of the bag...............everyone knows I am no "spring chicken" LOL
There are no chickens and I don't have enough energy to jump rope like the sheep, I don't have antlers, though I do have "pouffy hair", LOL, and I do not want to be compared to a cow eating it's cud, so I guess I am the cat..............I like cats and I could sleep like a cat all day if I could....
Thank you everyone for just letting me write my feelings and sharing what I am going through.I do appreciate the people on this forum so much, you are all wonderful.
RWM and the Pleo Clan of the REdwoods
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